Remember back in the day when people were embarrassed to say they met someone online? There was (and still is for that matter) a reason for that. As previously stated in my other article, Just when you thought that gay guys were all sweet and friendly... The number of spots for gay men to meet in this shitty town is slim to none. (closer to none than slim) So trying to find a nice guy for either a one time deal or a relationship is harder than it sounds. So i have avidly been searching dating sites looking for guys in/near my shitty city. I have drawn several conclusions from this endeavor:
1. No one really pays much attention to your profile where you say you like long walks on the beach, cuddling up on rainy night,etc. They look at your picture and basic info. I found this out during a conversation with a gentlemen during which he asked me several questions to which the answers were in my profile...? Well I assumed it was just a guy that thinks with his dick (Yes even the gay ones do that occasionally), until it happen twice more within the next week. After these incidents I decided the profile does not matter.
2. There is a reason people date online. They are ashamed themselves for one reason or another. Either he is a 65 year old looking for younger men (like 25 and under) or he is obese to the point he needs a search and recuse team to relieve his bladder. (No exaggeration he decided to share his private pictures with me :/)As both of the people in the examples did in fact come on to me it made me question the reason I was dating online. Maybe it is because I am not out to my family and cannot bring a nice guy over to family dinner on Sunday, or maybe because I am ashamed of my job. The point is chances are if you see someone online who's profile looks like Mr(s). Right, they are lying.
3. The last thing I observed was that as no one (or very few) people actually read profiles, they do not respect boundaries. My profiles and any sites I go on say the same thing in bold print if you are looking for a relationship no older than 5 years older than I am. If looking for just fun no older than 7 years. This leads to awkward situations like the one previously mention with said 65 year-old. Like a local 45 year old farmer who wanted me to join him for and i quote "a roll in they hay ;)" Or the 50 year old trucker who said I should "Play with his gearshift." And then we mentioned we both like Lady Gaga there was the disco-stick innuendo.
In conclusion if you were ever considering internet dating...don't. Get in your car or take public transit to the nearest bar/club of your choice and meet people who aren't embarrassed to be there! Sometimes creeps like these almost scare me straight or at least a little bi.
