One of the more hilarious topics (as mentioned in previous posts) are guys who continue to lie about the girls they sleep with, and the numbers they scrounge during their ventures at the bar (obviously out of insecurity). The people I mention are usually guys who many women would consider very attractive.
Being someone that frequents the gym on a regular basis, I meet a lot of people, and some of these people co-mingle into my nightlife entourage on the odd weekend. These are your typical alpha male, testosterone filled guys who for the most part are fun to party with. The surprising thing is that most of these guys AREN’T successful with women at all and I see this all the time. You would think that guys, who know how to dress well, keep care of themselves and dedicate themselves daily in the weight room, would have a rolodex of women at a push of a button. They don’t and here’s why
Many men going through the hurdles of adolescence assume attraction for men and women is the same. A few rejections and some questionable couple sightings later (ie: Why is that fat guy with that hot blonde?) a man comes to the conclusion that isn’t the case. Personality, confidence, power all come into play when building attraction for women.
Speaking from personal experience, as in someone who has been blessed to some degree in the looks department (Stop rolling your eyes, I’m not trying to sound conceited, I need to prove a point here) I can see why men can be so terrible when it comes to interacting with women. The problem here is that many times in an attractive guy’s life, you are given the odd “Hail Mary”. I’m not referring to the traditional catholic prayer; I’m referring to the pass in football where a throw is made in desperation with only a small chance of success. In other words, there have been times (usually a situation involving alcohol) that a girl will be all over a guy with minimal effort because of his looks. You make a little eye contact, some small talk and she’s all over you. The issue here is that guys mainly rely on that very (small chance of success) factor that just standing there on the sidelines with your phone (like an idiot) will somehow flock the girls your way. When success doesn’t come their way, some guys will lie and make up stories because they want to maintain their alpha male status. You also have the other side of the coin where guys come off too cocky and this becomes a turn off for women. Again this all comes back to insecurity; guys who brag about things are compensating for something else (usually their personality). Look I’m no Don Juan myself, but I can understand these things based on firsthand experience, like I’ve said in previous posts, I’ve learned from my mistakes and I know honesty is always the best policy.
I consider looks a “bonus” for guys, if you have it and have the confidence/personality to back it up, the winners will be yours. Looks are irrelevant for a guy in the dating world if he doesn’t have the personality.
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