Dedicated to you… four years later and the answer is still no.
There is a very definite line between flirting and being friendly. A large percentage of the male population understands this line: just because a pretty girl is talking to you does not automatically indicate she wants to jump your bones. Some guys, unfortunately, don’t seem to grasp this concept. Causing very very awkward situations to surface.
As someone who is rather outgoing and talks to anyone and everyone I meet, I regularly find myself saying those four uncomfortable words, “Let’s just be friends!” After saying those infamous words there are a variety of paths that open up, and most of them are memorably unpleasant. Even the best-case scenario is a little uncomfortable for both of us. For the most part, though, as long as the guy isn’t being a douche about it I can usually manage to brush it off and keep his ego and my sanity intact. I’d never purposely embarrass a guy for misunderstanding my friendliness, but inside I am definitely having an ‘OMG’ moment!
Some gentlemen, for a reason unbeknownst to the majority of society, feel the need to take a far less classy approach. After hearing the words of rejection they quickly turn from sweet to sour. They go from having these big puppy dog eyes and charming dispositions to being angry or worse, mopey.
I can handle the angry guys: call me a bitch and I’ll put you in your place, and I won’t be so tactful in my attempt to spare your feelings. He says, “You’re leading me on.” No. I’m not. I’m smiling and talking to you because I am a happy and nice person. Case closed. I promise, if I was interested in you: you would know!
The mopey guys, on the other hand, just creep me out. WHY ARE YOU SO SAD? Just move on. We met like ten minutes ago. I don’t understand how someone’s heart can be so broken when so little… or nothing… has been invested. I’m sorry that I don’t like you, but I don’t; please spare me the sob story and stop your fucking sulking. Rejection happens and will continue to happen. You might want to consider thickening your skin a bit.
My advice to the girls: Play nice with these boys, but be aware that you’ll unintentionally lead some of them on. In order to lessen the blow make sure your intentions are put out there from the start. “Let’s just be friends” needs to be laid out someway somehow from the beginning.
My advice to the angry guys: Ha ha… you’re probably losers, so I’m not going to give you any advice.
My advice to the mopey guys: DON’T MOPE… you look really pathetic and you immediately sever the chance of anything happening in the future or with any of her friends (friends don’t let friends date downers.)
Adios Amigos… get it?
