We’ve all heard that rumours that women reach their sexual peak once they reach their 30’s, and that men (if not always at the sexual peak) hit it a little sooner. Don’t get me wrong, I love sex now, but I’m beginning to notice changes in the men I choose to have sexual encounters with. No longer can you get away easily by ending a night with a hand-job (ugh, how tiring), or a blowjob after a lengthy post-bar make out session. As we get older it seems like we’re left with the option of all or nothing; if you’re going home with a guy, the other stuff doesn’t cut it anymore, and sex must be the inevitable. Now granted, I enjoy sex as much as most men, so yah, it’s the ultimate goal for me as well. But I’ve noticed recently that when I’ve begun dating someone and am trying to be a ‘good girl’ by taking it slow, they just aren’t interested in hand gestures and BJ’s. After months of research with several different more than willing subjects, I’ve come to a conclusion that resembles a shatty thesis written for a health and leisure course. The older men get and the more sex (intercourse) they’ve engaged in, the more desensitized they become to manual and oral stimulation.
Take for example these completely hypothetical situations:
Situation 1:
X had been dating B for a couple weeks - and by dating I mean engaging in the “fuck friend” phenomenon that graces our mid-twenty something lives. It started as an intense sexual attraction to one another that almost instantly become physical and aggressive. Weeks into the “relationship,” and hours after round one, B started getting rowdy once again and was pushing round two. X, tired and sore from being tossed around hours earlier, decided she would offer a blowjob instead. B looked at her as if she was handing him a last place prize. “Seriously, I haven’t come from a blowjob in years,” B told her, “so there’s no use trying.” Confident in her abilities (because she’d only ever received compliments), X continued her mission and set out on the task ahead. Ten minutes in, X caught the bored look on B’s face. Wow... what a blow to the ego. Do I really suck that bad? (haha). B looked down at her and said with regret, “I warned you fair and square, it just doesn’t do anything for me anymore.” So B and X ended up having sex, despite X’s original intentions to take a break.
Situation 2:
X had been dating B (a different B) for about two weeks. Taking the good girl approach, she said straight up from the start of the relationship that she was looking for more than sex, and that sex wouldn’t come along for at least 6 months. “But we can still do other stuff,” she wanted to make him aware. So one night, after hours of making out, fondling and dry humping, X decided to go down on her willing-to-wait lover. While it was in the heat of the moment, X also felt like she owed him a little something for sending him home with blue balls almost every night for two weeks prior. He was more than delighted, but after half an hour (ugh seriously) and him coming close a couple of times, X looked up and said “what am I doing wrong here?” B was immediately concerned and felt bad for X. “It’s totally not you,” he stammered. “What you’re doing feels absolutely amazing, it’s just don’t blow jobs don’t really cut it for me anymore. I’ve had too much sex and its ruined blowjobs for me.” So that’s what it was! Could it really be possible that after years of sex he had been desensitized to blowjobs? Or had X just lost one of her better talents?
I’ve approached the topic with several of my friends, both male and female, and I’m not the only woman concerned with this issue. A lot of my guy friends have told me the same thing, blow jobs are just soooo high school! So, for my female readers: have you noticed this change in our men? And for all the guys out there reading my blog... I pose this question:
As girls get older, do we suck at sucking? Or have blowjobs just become a thing of the past?
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