I’m not the type of girl who can spend hours looking at clothes and piecing together great outfits. This is partly due to my lack of skill (I’m far from being a stylist) and my lack of patience trying things on, or watching my friends try things on. I tire of shopping easily. That being said, there are two types of stores I can spend hours shopping in, whether I decide to purchase or not. First, the bookstore; whether it’s a huge chain, or a small independent, I can spend hours and hours poring over books, reading and touching covers, mentally storing authors and titles in my head. Why... because of my passion for writing and my love of reading. My second favourite store revolves around a whole different type of passion and is called “The Love Shop.” Every city has one, and like bookstores, they can be both within a chain or independent (although I’m not sure how much I would trust an independent store selling sex toys). Wherever it’s located, and whatever it happens to be named, one thing remains the same; the colours, textures, shapes, sizes and varieties of product are like nothing you can find in any other store. Without a doubt, there is something there for everyone.
My most recent trip to The Love Shop was one of my favourites. A younger friend of mine was looking to buy his girlfriend a gift and asked if I could help him pick something. Of course, anything for a friend! When he told me he was looking for a special gift from a sex store, I was even more thrilled. Of course I’ve gone in with nervous first-timer friends, who are still embarrassed by the whole thing. They usually bring me along to ease the tension and spread the attention on someone else. But to help a first-timer buy a gift for his first-timer girlfriend? This was a challenge I had yet to partake in! I called my dear friend Elle and the two of us set out to meet the young man at the Love Shop. After an hour of shopping to find the right product, and with money well spent, I thought about the experience and how it must feel for a novice. So I came up with the following guideline to buying sex toys; which I would like to dedicate to my young friend (you know who you are), boyfriends looking for gift ideas, and all the girls out there who have yet to enter the realm of self-pleasure.
1.) Don’t be intimidated by what you see in the window! There’s absolutely nothing wrong or dirty about being curious with your sexuality and going to a sex store. You think people will judge you? Well chances are they’re either already doing it themselves, and if they’re not, IT’S THEIR LOSS! If you’re embarrassed, than park in the back, or further away from the doors so no one recognizes your car. I used to!
2.) If it makes you feel better (which it probably will) than take a friend with you. Whether you’re both first timers, or he/she knows what they’re doing, it’s a hell of a lot less nerve-wracking with a buddy at your side. You’ll be more apt to pick things up, play with them, and open yourself up to a whole new realm of enjoyment. Plus, it’s much more fun laughing at the sizes of butt plugs and the Great American Challenge with someone at your side. Whether you decide to buy something or not, you’ve taken the first step.
3.) If you’ve finally built up the balls to buy something, (for a first-timer especially) then START SMALL. The names, shapes and colours of vibrators and what-not’s can be extremely threatening. I recommend starting with something like a pocket rocket. They’re small, come in a ton of cool colours, easy to hide from your parents, and (if found) do not immediately resemble a rubber vibrating penis. By starting small and playing around with your new toy, you’ll begin to learn what your body likes most, and when you’re ready for an upgrade, you’ll know what section to start in.
4.) Be creative. If you don’t have the imagination to close your eyes and muster up an incredible fantasy to get off to, try watching porn. Sometimes there’s nothing sexier. And trust me, if you have a boyfriend and he finds out, it will definitely make your sex life steamier. There is nothing a man loves more than a sexually confident female.
5.) So last but definitely not least, be confident with your sexuality. There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with masturbation. It is my personal belief that people who DO NOT know how to pleasure themselves are the ones with the problems. It’s a lot more widely-known and acceptable for guys to go-to-town on themselves, whereas girls have always been shamed for it. Well times have changed people. Women can now take control of their bodies and pleasure without the shame, and who knows you’re body and what makes your toes curl better than you?
Ps... there’s nothing better than having an orgasm without the fear or pregnancy or STI’s lingering in your head!!!
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