Our list of deal breakers resides beyond the physical, mostly. While he doesn’t need to be Gerard Butler the attraction needs to be there. That being said there isn’t one particular thing we are looking for or are fully opposed to (beyond the obvious such as personal hygiene). He’s either got “it” or he doesn’t.
Elle’s deal breakers:
Being a bad driver!!!!!!!!!
Bad drivers are deal breakers due to either:
a) a lack of confidence
b) aggression and stupidity
c) oblivion
Bad drivers are deal breakers due to either:
a) a lack of confidence
b) aggression and stupidity
c) oblivion
This is number one for me. There is nothing that could turn me off faster than a guy who is a bad driver! One’s driving ability is a direct indication of how they are in both life and bed.
Having a girlfriend
There is nothing sexy about a guy who has no self-control. If he has a girlfriend he’s out of the question. If he really wants me that badly he’ll find a reputable way of getting me.
There is nothing sexy about a guy who has no self-control. If he has a girlfriend he’s out of the question. If he really wants me that badly he’ll find a reputable way of getting me.
Momma’s Boy
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a guy having a good relationship with his mom. (In fact, if he didn’t that would be just as big of a concern). Nonetheless, there is a very crucial line between being a good son and being a momma’s boy. A guy should not: refer to his mother as “mommy”, break a date with you because he wanted to go hang out with his mom, mention his mom on a first date, mention his mom on a second date, call his mom during a date, answer a call from his mom during a date, answer a call from his mom during sex, or think about his mom during sex. Additional deal breakers include the following statements: “You remind me of my mom,” “you look like my mom,” “my dad would really like you” or “my mom is going to be jealous of you.”
There is absolutely nothing wrong with a guy having a good relationship with his mom. (In fact, if he didn’t that would be just as big of a concern). Nonetheless, there is a very crucial line between being a good son and being a momma’s boy. A guy should not: refer to his mother as “mommy”, break a date with you because he wanted to go hang out with his mom, mention his mom on a first date, mention his mom on a second date, call his mom during a date, answer a call from his mom during a date, answer a call from his mom during sex, or think about his mom during sex. Additional deal breakers include the following statements: “You remind me of my mom,” “you look like my mom,” “my dad would really like you” or “my mom is going to be jealous of you.”
No Excitement About Life
I don’t care what it is, but he has to be passionate about something. A guy with no spark about life isn’t going to spark with me! I’m passionate about too many things, and if you stifle my energy and creativity by not having your own “stuff” to work on… bye bye!
I don’t care what it is, but he has to be passionate about something. A guy with no spark about life isn’t going to spark with me! I’m passionate about too many things, and if you stifle my energy and creativity by not having your own “stuff” to work on… bye bye!
No Questions Asked
Voltaire said, “judge a man by his questions not by his answers” and I believe he may have developed this theory from a date gone awry. I don’t want to sit there on a first date and answer my own questions.
Example:
Me: What are your hobbies?
Him: Sports. What are your hobbies?
He should be able to come up with some questions on his own. Additionally, some of the questions should really make me think. I know myself pretty well and I won’t easily be stumped. If a guy can make me walk away from the date thinking, “that was a good question” he’s guaranteed another date. In my opinion, being able to ask questions generally means one is able to answer those same questions. Therefore, a guy who asks thought provoking questions has likely mulled his own answer over in his mind. On the other hand, a guy who can’t ask more than: “What’s your favourite food?” is likely to be a little two-dimensional. (Similarly, a guy who doesn’t ask any questions is probably self centered and selfish = red flags).
Voltaire said, “judge a man by his questions not by his answers” and I believe he may have developed this theory from a date gone awry. I don’t want to sit there on a first date and answer my own questions.
Example:
Me: What are your hobbies?
Him: Sports. What are your hobbies?
He should be able to come up with some questions on his own. Additionally, some of the questions should really make me think. I know myself pretty well and I won’t easily be stumped. If a guy can make me walk away from the date thinking, “that was a good question” he’s guaranteed another date. In my opinion, being able to ask questions generally means one is able to answer those same questions. Therefore, a guy who asks thought provoking questions has likely mulled his own answer over in his mind. On the other hand, a guy who can’t ask more than: “What’s your favourite food?” is likely to be a little two-dimensional. (Similarly, a guy who doesn’t ask any questions is probably self centered and selfish = red flags).
Abby’s Dealbreakers
Hoarding
Hoarding is a mental condition that I want NO part of. Yes I can understand letting your empties build up so you can get a bigger pay off, that’s understandable. But I’m talking about guys that collect shit, save shit, and worst of all, don’t clean shit up. A dirty (hoarder) house can make me instantly change from horny to “HOARDER ALERT,” and trust me, you won’t be getting any. Garbage belongs in the dump, not the corner of your basement TV room.
Hoarding is a mental condition that I want NO part of. Yes I can understand letting your empties build up so you can get a bigger pay off, that’s understandable. But I’m talking about guys that collect shit, save shit, and worst of all, don’t clean shit up. A dirty (hoarder) house can make me instantly change from horny to “HOARDER ALERT,” and trust me, you won’t be getting any. Garbage belongs in the dump, not the corner of your basement TV room.
Annoying friends
There’s nothing that ruins my mood more than dating someone who’s got totally lame friends. As much as sometimes I hate to admit it, you’re friends can say a lot about you (sorry Elle). So if they suck, it instantly makes me wonder if you also suck when I’m not around, or that I’m presently just blinded by good looks and charm and soon I’ll wake up realize you’re lame, and it’s too late. Same goes if you’re friends are just complete assholes. I’m sorry, but if I can’t get along with your friends they clearly aren’t invited to the wedding.
There’s nothing that ruins my mood more than dating someone who’s got totally lame friends. As much as sometimes I hate to admit it, you’re friends can say a lot about you (sorry Elle). So if they suck, it instantly makes me wonder if you also suck when I’m not around, or that I’m presently just blinded by good looks and charm and soon I’ll wake up realize you’re lame, and it’s too late. Same goes if you’re friends are just complete assholes. I’m sorry, but if I can’t get along with your friends they clearly aren’t invited to the wedding.
The Office
The Office? Never seen it: well your loss, for two reasons! First, it’s been on TV for what, six seasons now? How have you avoided it, unless you’re avoiding it purposely. Secondly, that show has become part of the essence of who I am. I don’t watch it religiously, but I do carry a particular fondness for it. It brings me up when I’m feeling down. So I refuse to date anyone who doesn’t find the Office hilarious. Actually, anyone who doesn’t find everything I find funny hilarious, sense of humour is tres important.
The Office? Never seen it: well your loss, for two reasons! First, it’s been on TV for what, six seasons now? How have you avoided it, unless you’re avoiding it purposely. Secondly, that show has become part of the essence of who I am. I don’t watch it religiously, but I do carry a particular fondness for it. It brings me up when I’m feeling down. So I refuse to date anyone who doesn’t find the Office hilarious. Actually, anyone who doesn’t find everything I find funny hilarious, sense of humour is tres important.
Bad Teeth or Eyebrows
It may be vain, yes, but I’m sick of seeing these “cool cats” standing around their parked, suped-up Honda civics in a Tim Hortons parking lot. If your stomach can stand for you to get close enough, you’ll realize what they lack in looks, they’ve put into their car. So you have bad teeth? Well come on, spend that $2000 on a new set of chompers instead of a new deck and bass for your stupid sun fire.
It may be vain, yes, but I’m sick of seeing these “cool cats” standing around their parked, suped-up Honda civics in a Tim Hortons parking lot. If your stomach can stand for you to get close enough, you’ll realize what they lack in looks, they’ve put into their car. So you have bad teeth? Well come on, spend that $2000 on a new set of chompers instead of a new deck and bass for your stupid sun fire.
Fucked up family
My family is quite retarded, yes, but in the most beautiful way possible. What I can’t handle is someone who is constantly letting “family issues” affect their everyday lives, ESPECIALLY dating life! I don’t want to be a part of your mommy or daddy issues! Work that shit out on your own and then come back to me. Yes everyone has baggage, but since family issues are ongoing issues, you need to work that shit out. Why would anyone want to get into a relationship with someone who knowingly has “daddy issues?”
My family is quite retarded, yes, but in the most beautiful way possible. What I can’t handle is someone who is constantly letting “family issues” affect their everyday lives, ESPECIALLY dating life! I don’t want to be a part of your mommy or daddy issues! Work that shit out on your own and then come back to me. Yes everyone has baggage, but since family issues are ongoing issues, you need to work that shit out. Why would anyone want to get into a relationship with someone who knowingly has “daddy issues?”
Time to share: what are your “deal breakers”?
