One of the more interesting venues for social interaction has to be the whole “clubbing experience” which always formulates interesting gossip. One of the battle stories I constantly hear women talk about is an encounter with a “creepy guy” and ladies you all know who I’m talking about.
You’re out with your girlfriends, dancing the night away to some great music and all of a sudden it happens. In a head turn of horror you see some creepy guy grinding up from behind, giving you that look of both sexual urge, and prayer (in the sense that he is praying for you to be drunk enough so you will reciprocate the same action) Of course natural instincts kick in; you push his hands away and give that look of disgust which promptly sends the doucebag away in shame.
Most likely this guy isn’t as big of a creepball as you would think and just has the wrong perception of clubbing. For starters I think we can all agree that going to a club is not real life, and more of a fantasy world. Basically a bunch of well dressed people packed together like a cattle farm in dim lighting listening to Lady Gaga remixes. For men, generally speaking, the concept of going clubbing is to pickup girls (with minimal effort) and take them to the promise land by night’s end. For women the intention is to have a good time with the girls, and maybe by some miracle, meet their future boyfriend.
What women have to realize is that no man actually enjoys going clubbing for the experience. It’s all about the women, and even if a guy says he enjoys going clubbing, it’s STILL all about the women. The most successful guys at picking up in a club are generally the ones having a good time, not worrying about their surroundings. It kills any desperation in the room, and let’s face it women want to hang out with the most fun and cool guys that night; it adds value to their evening.
So getting back to the creepy guy, I think it’s safe to say women by natural have a sort of Anti-Whore defence, so doing anything that would perceive them looking as a slut puts their defences on guard mode. Its like their actions will be broadcast on TMZ at any moment. While the guy may be trying to break this invisible force field, he is coming on too strong and women can’t let their guard down that easily. Unlike bars, clubs aren’t a place you can usually spark up a conversation, the music is too loud and it’s an environment for the superficial to thrive in.
So why do we still do this? From a guy’s perspective, the challenge clubbing brings is intriguing; it’s like a game of roulette. For women it’s an excuse to go out looking fabulous, fishing compliments to your friends back and forth oh and also the music right?
